Adding a new ‘Player’.

Last night, the hubbs and I were talking about school enrollment.

Our oldest, who is in public school and whose enrollment we were talking about, was doing his chore…. sort of.

During this conversation A says, I would rather just be homeschooled – especially if we’re moving in the middle of the school year.

Both the hubbs and I had the same reaction — jaws droppedYou what!?

We heard him right. He wants to homeschool.

Our plan is to move to California in the next few months, and that would mean A would have to change schools.

He DOES NOT want to do that. He wants to move to California, yes, but he does not want to change schools.

The hubbs had mentioned to A’s mom last weekend when she picked him up, that we were talking about moving away & asked what she thought.

She was not happy. I would hate it worse than I hate the arrangement we have now, was exactly how she worded it.

Our arrangement now is Sun @ 8pm – Friday @ 5pm he is with us. That means all school time he’s at our house.

This would mean she would see him on school vacations, and that would be it, unless she made a special trip from KS to CA.

In the end, she said that since A is of age to make his own choice on who he wants to live with, she would support his decision.

A wants to come with. He wants to learn how to surf, and live in a place that doesn’t have sticky, crazy heat.

Soooo, the hubbs thinks that A wanting to stay home is a good way to test the waters to see how serious A’s mom was about supporting his decisions.

A wants to do this. No one tried to talk him into it. Hubbs and I were trying to figure out how much we were going to have to pay for school fees when A said this. Randomly.

If A’s mom decides she won’t support A’s choice in education, and knowing why he wants to do that, we can’t believe that she will truly let him go without a fight.

So, this will be a good testing of the waters.

Now, the issue I have – A did a public school from home program in 5th grade while I was pregnant with Miss Liberty.

I was exhausted, and unprepared for schooling at home, even though it was an online program – I still had to help with it.

At this point in time, I’m fully prepared to homeschool kids, so I won’t have any of those issues.

BUT, he did take advantage of my position at that point in time, and slacked off.

That was the thing I talked to him about last night – can you seriously say that you will be able to sit here with me and your siblings all day?

That you will not try to take advantage of the situation and try to get out of doing any of your work?

After the work you gave me today, I know the school year won’t be easy.  You won’t let me off easy. You’ll make sure I’m doing my work, and you’ll help me if I need it.

I gave him 5 different assignments yesterday just as a ‘get your brain going’ activity since he hadn’t done anything all summer.

He didn’t understand something, and instead of asking for help, he just immediately looked at the page and said I don’t know what this is, how am I supposed to do that!?

This was immediate. He looked at the page and said it. I tried to explain that he needed to look at the example problem, but he just wouldn’t listen.

Finally, I got him to my desk and explained it step by step with the example problem and an additional problem that I made up.

He got it, and he had the whole worksheet done within minutes.

I’m taking a chance here.

I know it would be unfair of me to say No, sorry, I can’t do it for you, but I can for your siblings. Especially when I’m fully capable.

I just don’t want to be taken advantage of. Again.

Today I’m working on a schedule for his school work so that he will see what he will have to do.

If he makes a fuss over anything that he will have to do, I’m probably going to say no.

Has anyone brought home an older kid who has only schooled in a public setting? If so, how did you go about it?

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